almost no one is coming to my wedding?

cougar2342

my fiance told me last night that a large portion of his family is not going to be able to come due to the possibility of job loss & the economy. fine, ok, it sucks, but it cant be helped in their case. however, between this, my family(i havent talked to my parents or sisters in over a year-their choice, not mine-so they will not be coming, both sets of g'parents are dead, the one aunt &one uncle i have probably arent coming-the aunt & her husbands family are going on vacation to myrtle beach, even though they got their save the date before christmas, have known about it for over a year, & only planned this beach trip recently, like the last few months; the uncle doesnt want to drive 6 hours by himself, or invest in a suit-i dont care about that last bit, but fmil pitched a holy hell fit about it-the rest of my family probably wont show up as a result of age) , & fmil making things as stressful as possible by refusing to pay until we almost lose a vendor(she told fh she would pay for some things to help us out), informing me that i had better make fsil(who will be barely 6 mos. preg.) moh(i shut her down on this one & so did fh as the one person i would want for that position that i feel is close enough to me for that are my sisters, which i have explained to BOTH of them, & the only one who has a problem is fmil-she likes fsil more than me), & generally doing everything she can to cause stress(which she didnt do in regard to fsil's & fbil's wedding). now 10 weeks before the wedding, she refuses to even talk about the wedding or anything to do with it, or even help w/ any of the stuff that still needs to be done. fsil(the only bm fmil cares about)doesnt care either. she didnt even bother to mail my shower invitations until 6 days before the shower.

we also found out last night that the friend who is supposed to be performing our ceremony is getting divorced from his wife(who is a bm and whose daughter is our flower girl). as this is more likely than not going to be a messy and nasty divorce(complete with custody battle), we are probably going to have to end up finding another officiant in less than 10 weeks.

fmil has made it clear that she has NO interest in our wedding or anything associated with it, as has fsil(she didnt even mail the shower invitations until 6 days before and im almost certain there were a few she just didnt send at all b/c fmil didnt like whomever). when fbil married fsil a little over a year ago, everyone was so happy and chomping at the bit to come. with our wedding, people just.....aren't. dont get me wrong here, i fully understand that w/ the economy how it is, people just cant do things like they used to, and things are harder for a lot of people. but like my aunt, who is a blood relative, who has known when my wedding was supposed to be for over a year now, suddenly decides to go on a vacation to myrtle beach on the weekend of my wedding(as in leave thursday to get to myrtle beach, spend the weekend, and come back monday or tuesday) w/ her husbands family.

i just did a head count and out of the 150 guests on the guest list, it is looking like only maybe 20 of them will actually come, and there are some of the 20 that may not come.

im just so disappointed i guess. so much time and so much money has gone into this(mostly mine), & all of our venues, food, etc. are for 125-150 ppl. i have 125-150 pre-printed personalized invitations, along with personalized napkins, matchbooks and a caketopper with our wedding date on it. had i known this was what would happen a year ago, i would have just not bothered. i actually was in tears last night. i dont know what i should do.
alot of the money that has been spent we cannot get back due to non refundable deposits, etc.
i wish we could get it back....
from what i can tell we may be locked into our original count.
also the whole point of having the wedding was b/c we didnt want to elope and we wanted to have family come. it just kind of makes me feel that they feel like our marriage is going to fail anyway so why come to support it. also where i come from if no one comes to your wedding, it is considered bad socially, as most people take it as no one approved of the union. i realize this sounds old fashioned, but it was what i was brought up with.
one of my big issues still is the sheer size of our venues. with only a few people there, im afraid the venues will just look huge and vacant. i dont know if i should try to change venues or something drastic?
for the ceremony we are outdoors in a large stone ampitheatre(sp?), so trying make it not gapingly empty is going to be really hard. we originally booked this place as we thought we would need the space for all the people....

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I agree with Grammie. Focus on having a great time with your family and friends who do come.

If you've sunk enough money into a reception for 125 or so, expand to all sorts of friends, coworkers, and acquaintances. Tell people they can bring extra guests. Those who care about you will want to make this an event to remember, and most people love weddings and will jump to rescue the cause.

This won't make you feel better, but I did hear of one couple who broke up days before the wedding. There was a reception planned for 70 people, so instead, the bride called up a local homeless shelter and told them she had meals for 70 people if they could get them over, and held the reception anyways.

Whatever happens, good luck, and focus on building a new family unit with your new husband!

Got this idea from the other posts. I would like your opinion.?

Sara

Me and my boyfriend are looking to get a second dog eventually. We currently have a GSD/lab mix who is 5 months old. We would like to get another dog in the spring. We do two walks a day on weekdays and we both work full time. On Saturdays we usually go to the park for a romp w/ the dog. We live by a lake so the puppy likes to run in and run out and go digging on the beach. (We live in Saint Louis so it does it cold) Then on Saturday nights we hit up the bar with a few friends and leave our puppy with my brother's girlfriend's old english sheepdog while we are out. On Sundays we go to a family dinner where everyone brings their dogs and they play in the backyard, my boyfriend's parents foster dogs for the local shelter so we see lots of different pups. We would like to get an adult dog from a shelter, but aren't sure what would be good for us. I know we like medium to extra large dogs and we are fairly confident with training, not perfect though and have owned dogs all our life. We need a dog that would be a perfect companion for our young dog and for my parents' older cat that is soon going to be rehomed at our house. We do love affectionate dogs that are playful and like to cuddle. Our house is on the small side, but we do have a decent sized backyard. What breed do you think would be best for our activity level/lifestyle? Thanks for your opinion.

These are types of dogs that I like.... labs, GSDs, bullmastiffs or english mastiffs, weimeraners, huskies, malamute (not sure about these last two because they are very stubborn and aloof dogs w/ high prey drive) Basically, I like big, stocky, tough looking dogs. :)

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Why dont you just ask your boyfriends parents to keep an eye out for a dog they think would get along well with yours?

There are probably quite a few at the shelter.

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