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can somebody do some research for me and help me with a strategy to get out?

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Q. i live in ruff neighbour hood with aggressive youths and i have mental health problems, high levels of anxiety constantly, anger probs, difficult to control, racing thoughts, low moods. and i live around recklass hooligans, antisocial thugs, if you wanna know the type to give you a better picture google, (english soccer thugs/ hooligans)~ what youll find or see is similar to the sorts of neighbors i have to live around. im just wondering if anyone out there can maybe do a bit of research on the internet for me about agencies and strategies on how i could get out of my situation and who could help. cheers


Answer
I lived in a very rough town, and new I needed to make a change. There was a song lyric that kind of inspired me:

"...Leave tonight or live and die this way..." (Tracy Chapman)

A whole series of events just finally lead up to "the straw that broke the donkey's back" and I knew it was just time to leave.

So this is basically what I did.

1. Researched where you want to go to.
The City should have:
A. Low unemployment. (Plenty of Jobs to go around)
B. Low crime rate. Low incidence of Violent Crime.
C. Highly rated schools (a sign the city puts $ into the community)
D. High levels of Culture: Parks, Museums, Bands, Theaters, Zoo, etc. (A sign of general affluence)
E. Higher education Opportunities
F. Relgious organizations
G. Tolerance

*Note I didn't mention:
Family
People you know
Climate you like
Geographic Features you Prefer (i.e. Beach/ Mountains etc.)

To improve your life this second group can actually hinder your progress. It can be impossible to start over, if people you know are trying to keep you in the lifestyle of the "old" you.

***Sometimes you have to make a clean break***

2. Make an estimate of the bare minimum amount of money it would take to get you there, and get settled. People ALWAYS over estimate this amount. This keeps people from reaching for a better life.

Even if all you could afford is a buss ticket. At least you would be homeless in a city with better opportunity and low violence, than homeless in a place that holds you back and you have a high chance of getting shot while you are with your "friends". So isn't it better after all? That really isn't anything to lose....

Think about how you will get there, Will you drive your car (price of gas, and food on the way); will you have to take a bus (ticket price and food)? Will you stay in a shelter until you are on your feet (free but restrictive and theft issues)? Will you stay in a pay by the week hotel? ($200-$300 a week) Can you arrange to rent a room near a college before you get there (Cheap but hard to arrange out of state)? Possibly camping?

How will you raise funds before you leave? Do you have a job now? Can you get a job? Do you have any skills? Baby sitting, Baking, Cleaning, Painting, and Gardening? Carwash? Carpentry?

If you are bringing your car, these are items you can bring with you:
Work Clothes, 2 casual outfits, 2 towels, Shower Curtain, Frying Pan, Sauce Pan (pot), Cutting board, Knife, and computer.

Camping Gear if you have it already: Tent, sleeping bag, cook stove/ propane, cooler.

3.Once you have decided a City the minimum you need is transportation and a couple hundred dollars to start.

When I moved several states away:

We got out of our current lease at out apartment. Took our big furniture to "mini storage" since we had a nice bed and couches. Then the work clothes...down to computer got packed in the car. Everything else we took to a "block" yard sale. Which was a huge success. We got $400. I was able to return a piece of jewelry from Christmas and got some more cash.

That funded our drive out, and motel stays on the way out. Then we stayed in an "Extended Stay America" Hotel. It was basically like a studio apartment in a hotel where you paid by the week. So we could cook and have a fridge and everything.

Then we both got jobs working through a temp agency the first week we were in town. That paid on Friday, and rent was due on Sat. We had office skills so we were able to get office jobs, but there are many agencies that have work for industrial, or cleaning too.

Pretty much every major city has them, look in the phone book. Plan on a couple hours to go through the "interview process". Dress nice, and act like it is a regular job interview. Don't tell them your problems, etc. Just be cheerful, and eager to work.


Then you just have to focus on eating very cheaply to save money to afford a real apartment. Different states have different laws on what apartments can charge, but almost all of them will either charge First month and last month, or first and a deposit. I think most states it is illegal to charge, first, last and a deposit. They can have regulations on how much you have to earn. Like at least 3 times the rent.

Anyhow try to get out of the extended stay as soon as you can because it will suck up the money. Ours was $350 a week. If that was monthly, you could be in a house for that much money in our market ($1200)!

So be a penny pincher and get into a real apartment. We had to sleep on the floor for about a month and a half until we could pay a friend to drive our stuff out to us.

If you sold your stuff or never owned it in the first place, buy a futon from Target or Wal-Mart until you can afford a real bed. Sometimes the frame is lame, so you may just want to sleep on the cushion. Personal Preference.

Also you won't have any glasses, plates, bowls, forks, spoons, or butter knives. Wal-Mart has sets of 4 for cheap. You will only need 4 of anything so don't buy more if it is just you, or you plus 1 other person. The perk is that you can never have a really dirty kitchen if you don't own that much. Think of it as kind of "Zen"

Also buy Paper towels, a 100 ft roll of tin foil, Toilet paper, Bar soap, Shampoo, a Cheap broom, Liquid dish soap, Scrubber sponges, a Jug of Mr. Clean concentrate and a sprayer bottle to dilute it in (so much cheaper), plus "All Small & Mighty" Concentrated Laundry Cleaner".

-That should get your house up and running.

The next step is to find a desk/ table to put your computer on if you have one. And a couch. We went about a month and a half before we had any chairs to sit on. Strangely it made us kind of depressed. If you have any kind of extra cash and are ok with thrift stores go buy a table you can put your computer on, and also sit at if you want to eat dinner at the table. Some times that will be the only dignity you have, since they jobs you have will offer you none. The thrift store may also have some good couches; you may have to figure out a way to get it home though.

Once you are settled consider taking some community college classes to educate yourself and raise yourself to a higher place. You have already taken the hardest steps anyone can. The education is only riding on the momentum. At first take something you like as a reward, and to get in the habit. Then think about a career you would like to be successful in and meet with an advisor in a university. Often you can take 2 years at a lower college and then transfer. Develop a plan, and start chipping away.

Lastly. Even if you are not particularly religious, join a church. You will be in a new city without many friends, you need all the support you can get. A church provides an instant support group. People to go places with, and friends to hang out with. You may get invited to nice dinners at people's homes in the beginning too. This can help you fight the home sickness.

You will be exhausted beyond belief the first 3 months. You are making something out of nothing. Very few people have this kind of bravery. You are remaking yourself. But it is very worthy to do. It is the same kind of challenge as climbing Mt. Everest. It changes you if you can pull it off.

I commend you for even trying. God's Love.

Going camping need help planing?




Sonny JR


Hey guys im going camping with some friends on a beach about ten all up we have 2 tents one for chick and one for guys is there anything we need to bring or just some ideas on how to plan this so it goes smoothly

the only plan we have right now is to bring up a boat and go fishing



Answer
Car camping means that everything and the kitchen sink could make the listâafter all, it's the perfect synch between comfort and the outdoors. That said, the trick is to bring enough items that stand in for traditional home-bound amenities while still reinforcing the pleasures of being outdoors. To assure that, bring enough outdoor toys (soccer balls, footballs, Frisbeesâthe list is endless), never let anyone retreat to the mini-van DVD player, and, most important, take a page from the backpacker's philosophy: Leave No Trace; pack out what you pack in, keep the trash far away from the fires, and leave the place the way you found it. Not only is that the environmentally savvy thing to do, but it also bestows the right message to your friends.

And when it comes to foodâplan by meal based on your schedule, then aim for one- or two-pot meals like pancakes or stew, and be sure to pack enough fruit and other snack items to stave off hunger between meals.

Shelter and Sleeping
Ground cloth
Tent(s)
Sleeping pads for everyone
Portable chairs and stools
Sleeping bag (rated to 20 to 50F)
Pillows
The Camp Kitchen
Stove (be sure to test it each time before you go)
Stove fuel
Charcoal and lighter fuel (if grilling)
Firewood and kindling (if allowed)
Matches/lighter
Cooking pots and pans
Extra water (to keep at your site)
Utensil set (including spoons, knives, forks, plus cooking utensils, such as serving spoons, knives, spatulas)
Can opener
Mess kits for everyone (plates, cups, bowls)
Cooler and ice
Dish detergent
Dish towels
Sponge/scraper
Plastic basin (for washing dishes)
Paper towels
Tablecloth
Trash bags
Foil
Ziploc bags
Hot pads
Citronella candle
Food Items
Snacks
Fruit
Peanut butter and bread (very quick and handy if your kids like it)
Butter/cooking oil
Condiments (salt, pepper, multi-spice, and mustard/catsup when applicable)
Beverages (juice boxes, milk)
Coffee, tea, or hot chocolate
Milk, sugar (if needed)
Desserts
Makings for s'mores (marshmallows, graham crackers, and chocolate)
Handy Campsite Tools
Rope
Clothes pins
Duct tape
Multi-tool/utility knife
Small handheld broom (for sweeping out the tent)
Light Sources
Lantern (at least one per tent makes camping much more enjoyable)
Headlamps for all
Toiletries
Bath towels and washcloths
Soap
Hand sanitizer
Shampoo
Quarters for pay showers
Toothbrushes/toothpaste
Deodorant
Razor
Toilet paper and trowel
Sunscreen
Lip balm
Baby wipes (very handy for campsite cleanup)
Family Medical Kit
Bandages
Benadryl
Poison ivy treatment such as CORTAID® Treatment Kit
Antibiotic ointment/wipes
Burn ointment
Thermometer
Bug repellent
Aspirin
Tweezers (good for removing splinters and ticks)
Moleskin
Clothing for All
Trail-running shoes or hiking boots (broken in and waterproofed)
Sandals/flip-flops (for public showers)
Wool socks
Synthetic long-underwear bottoms and tops
Synthetic shorts or convertible pants
Underwear
Synthetic/wicking t-shirt
Rain/wind jacket and pants
Wool or fleece sweater or jacket (vest, if warmer)
Pajamas
Bathing suits
Sunglasses
Wool or fleece hat*
Wool/fleece gloves or mittens*
Play Equipment
Swim towels
Water shoes (if needed)
Daypacks
Water bottles
Camera and film
Video camera
Reading material for all
Guidebooks and maps
Camping reservation info
Kid Stuff
Outdoor toys (Frisbee, kites, soccer ball, football, Wiffle Ball, etc.)
Whistle
Toys, board games, or deck of cards
Water toys or floats

*Indicates optional/depending on climate and geography




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